Death Blah Blah Blah

Tuesday is my favorite day of the week.

I host a gathering in the morning where we talk about Death and another one in the evening where we Say Goodbye to everything we are losing and open ourselves up to the grief. We have been doing this since the first week in March.

Under normal circumstances, most of us are good at keeping Death pretty much under wraps. Occasionally it rears its head and freaks us out when someone we love dies before we think they’re supposed to, but it usually goes away.

These are not normal times and death is not going away because we say it will. It’s out from where we thought we stashed it and it’s now part of every decision, every consideration in life. We are not used to Death as a constant companion. We react in many different ways.

Denial is of course the standard Go-To Defense and it works. I have seen people in rock solid Denial that there’s anything seriously wrong minutes from their last breath. And that was before the Coronavirus and the Blitzkrieg mode it sometimes employs.

People in Denial do not tend to participate in Death Q&A events, or at least they haven’t been attending mine. People that do come and say what’s going on for them are mostly confused. They’re not sure how to explain it to their kids. They’re nervous about going to work but they need the money. Most…